William Joseph Billante Jr. ( Bee Jay)

The Gulf

2010-06-28T14:41:00.000-07:00

Friends with Benefits

2010-06-21T07:52:00.000-07:00

It all starts out simple. You were friends. Then you decided to ‘get busy’. Then you both decide to remain friends and continue to get busy. That’s it…no strings attached. Spooning is OK, but no one is obligated to sleep over. No one has to call the next day to check in. Both of you can even date other people. Simple, no?

“Cuddy buddies”, “FFs”, “friends with benefits (F.W.B.)”– whatever fancy term you give it, there’s never anything simple about it.

Relationships have become increasingly carefree and physical, as women and men are marrying later in life. The boundaries between male/female relationships are less apparent and sex easily slips into the dichotomy. On the surface it makes sense to enjoy sex with someone you can trust, if you both aren’t ready for a serious relationships. But for some strange reason, F.W.B. always turns into a bad situation.

We can’t restrain you from acting on you burning loins, but can give a few tips to avoid an atrocity.

First- REMEMBER you are not his girlfriend or going to become his girlfriend by having sex with him. You are a friend, who is a girl…that’s it. If you go in (no pun, well maybe a little) expecting him to change his mind about your place in his life, you may be disappointed and left feeling like you’ve wasted your time. If you want an emotionally fulfilling relationship, seek out one, don’t try to create one.

Second- If you choose to date other people, understand that they may not be comfortable with your cuddy buddy set up. It may be difficult for them to meet your friends, if your hooking up with one of them.

Third- Don’t sweat the small stuff. All the common relationship courtesy’s don’t apply. He doesn’t have to call. He doesn’t have to meet your other friends. He doesn’t have to mention you to his friends. And foreplay is appreciated, but not required.

Fourth- Don’t become territorial. REMEMBER you are not his girlfriend.

Fifth- Lil Wayne said it best, “don’t get too comfortable”. Unless you’ve created a time chart for how long your special meet ups will take place, they can end abruptly.

Sixth- Be discreet, don’t get too touchy in public and only tell a select number of friends. Once again, if one of you decides to date an outside person they will not appreciate everyone in your circle knowing you two have had relations.

Seventh- Avoid being F.W.B. with a close friend. Hooking up with acquaintances is always an ideal situation because you don’t run into them on a regular basis.

Eighth- Understand your relationship will never be the same again. There’s something about seeing another person naked that changes everything. If you value your relationship platonically, be leery of taking it in another direction. Biologically, sex educes hormones in women that creates a sense of happiness and loyalty that can manifest into emotional attachment. Biologically for men, sex educes hormones that put them to sleep. See the difference?

Blackalicious - Alphabet Aerobics

2010-06-18T07:20:00.000-07:00

Five Finger Death Punch- Bad Company

2010-06-15T14:24:00.000-07:00

Lil John's new video

2010-05-03T11:09:00.000-07:00

Yelawolf

2010-05-03T10:54:00.001-07:00

Yelawolf - AsTheWorldSpins.com FreestylebyDJ Hotsauce

Sorry I love this commercial

2010-04-26T14:48:00.000-07:00

Thank You!!

2010-04-14T14:39:00.001-07:00

My BOY Sonny Bama

2010-02-11T06:04:00.001-08:00

Subaru VS police

2010-02-05T11:41:00.001-08:00

Rich boy

2010-01-29T09:36:00.001-08:00

My Father William J (Bill) Billante

2010-01-27T13:02:00.000-08:00

William J Billante Jr (Bill)

He left my mother in 1984. And never looked back. I have looked for him for a couple of years now with no luck. Don't ask me why I just have some question that need to be answered and he is the only one that can.

I have done all kinds of Google searches people finders whatever just for it to turn out to be old addresses or phone numbers. I recently sent a message to everyone on Facebook.com with the last name Billante to try to get newer info on him with no luck.

His sister Maryellen also has been looking for him because she hasn't seen him since about the same time. In her search for him she found out many years ago when her parents passed away(which he didn't even attend the funeral) that he was Adopted. Don't know from where or who or to whom to contact to find out possible Birth name or if there is one.

We know he has lived in Washington D.C. , Pittsburgh, Maryland, New Orleans LA, and of course Mobile Al, were he left my mom,me, my younger sister and brother( who don't care to hear from him ever again).

I just asking if ANYONE might know him to pass on the info to him please. Also just pass the link to this on to people you know also please.

Thanks,

Bee Jay Billante

Friends

2010-01-27T12:38:00.000-08:00

I went threw most of my life with little to no friends. So the ones I have today I do my best to keep them close.

I have been going threw a lot this year and done my best not to be a bum and ask for help. So when a couple friends of mine OFFERED to help me and get me out of this situation I go myself in. I was very pleased. We worked out our terms and all is good. So I thought. Well I started to structure my life the way I saw fit. Low and behold my friends don't want to help me now because they decided with out speaking to me that they no longer wanted to help me out of my situation because they don't like the choices I made since our agreement.

Now remind you that I never asked for help they decided to help me and offered up their assistance. So now they don't want to speak to me or discuss our arrangement because of the decision I made.

Well you know what if they happen to read this. MAN UP and say something to ME ! I'm a adult your a adult act like it. We are not kids in high school.

Drop the World

2009-12-31T07:38:00.001-08:00

Lil Wayne ft. Eminem – Drop The World (ALIen Remix) from VISUAL VINYL on Vimeo.

KEN BLOCK GYMKHANA TWO THE DIRECTORS CUT

2009-12-23T11:59:00.000-08:00

AutoCar UK: 911 Turbo vs R8 V10 vs GT-R Circuit Supercar Tesfrom Nissan GTRblog.com

2009-12-10T06:44:00.001-08:00

Godzilla VS Shebly Super Snake

2009-12-08T08:56:00.000-08:00

Benefit for Michelle Johnson

2009-11-27T07:12:00.000-08:00

Benefit for Michelle Johnson

Please join us Friday, December 11th 2009
7:00 PM. (refreshments available at 6:30)

Cornerstone Assembly of God
5860 Three Notch Rd.
Mobile, AL 36619

As many of you know Michelle Holloway Johnson was diagnosed with Stage 3 brain cancer in October of this year. She and her husband, Joey Johnson, are employees of Pilot, Inc., but due to her condition, she has been out of work since her surgery and Joey has also had to take off some to assist Michelle. She will start her chemotherapy and radiation the Monday after Thanksgiving, and although she is covered by insurance, there is only so much the insurance will pay before she runs out of benefits completely. We are hosting a benefit in Michelle's honor to help her, Joey, and their daughter, MacKenzie with some of her medical and travelling expenses. Please come out and show your support!

We will be having a Premier Designs jewelry show to help raise money for them. Premier jewelry makes great Christmas gifts, so if you have any last minute gifts you need to get, this would be a great time to do so and help this family out. This is not just a show for women, this is for you too men... We all know you are usually the ones caught on Christmas Eve trying to finish up!

This will not be just a jewelry show!!
We have also had many GREAT donations given to us to raffle off.
We can not begin to thank all of the people who have already donated, there are so many of you!
We also have a few lovely women there to entertain us with their beautiful voices.

Please RSVP as soon as possible so we know how many people to prepare for.
Feel free to bring guests with you, please just let us know how many will be attending with you.
The church has also agreed to let us use the nursery for those of you that need child care.
We will also need a count of children so we know how many volunteers to get to stay with them in the nursery.
RSVP:
Tamara Merryman
Call or text: (251) 610-3035 or Email: TamaraM0915@aol.com
OR
Stephanie Barber
Call or text: (251) 377-5795

For donations of raffle items:
Jennifer Vickers
Call or text: (251) 509-3009 or Email: JenVick83@yahoo.com
OR
Chelsea Jordan
Email: Chelsea102483@msn.com

To donate refreshments and/or paper products:
Mary Nunnery
Call or text: (251) 591-0452 or Email: Mary.Sprinkle@yahoo.com
OR
Pam King Bryant
Call or text (251) 709-9042 or Email: PKTaylor@comcast.net

To volunteer in the nursery contact:
Ashley Stephens
Call or text: (251) 643-6608 or Email: AshleyRS23@aol.com

Please allow a little time for a response as we have had an overwhelming amount of calls, texts, and emails from many of you showing your support!

Thank you all and God bless!
Love,
The Michelle Benefit Team

My new Fav.

2009-11-17T13:56:00.001-08:00

MTV Shows

REALLY

2009-10-29T06:22:00.001-07:00

How some people have the jobs they have BLOWS my mind! I love my job but I'm getting to the point where I want to quit.

The shit that people get away with around here is LUDACRIS. I know I slack sometimes but some people thats all they do all day long. I just feel like I'm not as appreciated as much as I think I should be.

I will go to the Gym tonight and work it out my system.

Everyone Smile makes someones day better.

Whatever!

2009-10-27T11:57:00.000-07:00

I just spent the last 30 minutes writing a blog for the system to Error out and delete it so this is all you get.
Later hope the day gets better.

Nothin New

2009-10-26T10:32:00.000-07:00

I have a wonderful weekend with my daughters. We go to take the Twins (my nephews) to he park yesterday and they had a blast.
My oldest daughter turned 10 this past Thursday. My ex-wife Birthday was Saturday along with my boy Sonny. My half brother Birthday is today. Two different friends Birthday's are tomorrow and My Mom's on Thursday. And then Halloween is Saturday a lot to do this week plus work 2 jobs.
Stress level maxed out here I come.

Frustrated

2009-10-13T14:12:00.001-07:00

I really have had a lot going on the past month and have barely had to time to think of anything outside of work. I finally got a place to stay thanks to my second job. I get moved in and had plans on getting a car. But were shot down due to my own stupidity and not paying bills the way I should. I haven't had a good night sleep in probably a month or more. I did get to see BOTH of my girls this past weekend. Which was GREAT but was broke and really couldn't do anything with them except go swimming ( yes swimming in Oct we live in Alabama its still in the 80's during the day).
If it wasn't for my second job and a few family and friends i wouldn't eat cause i can't afford too.
the whole point of this was that it doesn't matter how hard you work or how nice you are to people you work with or are around every day it never seems good enough. Should have done this shouldn't have done that. I want you opinion but what you to tell me what i want to hear not what I'm thinking.
I'm single now and quiet of my friends and ex's want me to come out and party and hang out all the time but get mad when I tell them I'm broke and have no car to party or that I have to work on the weekends. Then there are the friends who want you to do things for Free that you should have gotten paid to do just because they ask all nice and sweet and make it out to be a big deal when it really wasn't in the first place.
I have a email account that I haven't opened in almost 6months because I know its flooded with music to review. I would love to have the time to sit down and listen to it but if I did they would get the brunt of this frustration because I would hear one stupid song and go off on every song I heard after that. i was able to go to Bay Fest (local music festival)couple of weeks a go and was asked to right a review on it for a local blogger. I declined because I really didn't see but two Shows and (STP and Ludacris) and he got all pissy with me and removed me from his blog because of it. I was really on there to help the Mobile Roller Derby girls sell beer to help raise money.
I'm really not trying to bitch but I was pushed over the edge today by a fellow employee and really didn't feel lit getting fired from my FAVORITE JOB IN THE WORLD because I cussed her out for being rude.
MR. A is really wanting to come out these days and if he does all this hard work I have done will go to shit.
Well i guess no good deed goes unpunished right?
thanks for listening to whom ever reads this.

Life is good

2009-10-07T12:42:00.001-07:00

I have my own place and working on getting me a car with a help from my uncle. I have been trying to see the better side of things here lately thanks to help of some good friends and fellow employess.
So thanks ya'll
God bless.

New Day

2009-08-10T08:31:00.001-07:00

Well haven't been in here in a long while. Well few things have changed. I'm getting Divorced but it not one of those crazy ones. Me and her are workign things out as Adults and trying to talk it out. Her and my daughter have moved back into her parents . I'm staying with a friend till i can get back out on my own.
The hardest part is not seeing my daughters every day. I got to take her to school her first day of 2nd grade. She was very excited about that.
Well don't want to ponder on this to long but hopefully getting better One Day at a Time.

One day at a time

2009-04-27T10:49:00.000-07:00

I was recently hospitalized due to a rhymathoifd arthrits flareup. Then due to the meds I was readmitted back to the hospital for Heart and breathing trouble which at first was thought to be congestive heart failure. But it wasn't. I had developed fluid around my lungs and heart from the Steroids I was put on.

I was out of work or two weeks. and a month in the hole now. I'm glad I work for wonderful people . Because with out them I would have not been able to come back to work or been able to get better. I was able to stop and look at was in front of me. I see things a little different now. ONE DAY AT A TIME. Because I can't change the past and the future is not promised. Today is my first day back to work (both Jobs).

I'm lucky and blessed to be here.

Spending time with my daughter at the pool was the best this weekend. It made me feel normal not like I was gonna hurt myself again and end up in the hospital.

So special thanks to all my family friends and co-workers who prayed and cared for me while i was down.

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

Valentines Day

2009-02-11T10:00:00.000-08:00

I have had so many bad Valentines. So what would make it any different this year? I have been married for 5 yrs. I have never got anything special for Valentines. But I expected to go aboe and beyond the call of duty to impress her.

When we were kids it was cool to send Valentines to each other with chesse says in it that really didn't mean how we felt. Now if you do that you look cheap or you waited till the last minute.

This year it falls on a Saturday which would be fun for every one but me because She works all day at her job and I work all night. So we might get to see each other for about 2-3 hrs that day.

the point is that why? Why make such a big deal out of this day when you have every other day of your life to tell her how you feel?

2009-01-28T06:39:00.000-08:00

Is any one home? What goiong on out there? Ya'll ready for the Big Game Sunday? Go Steelers!

WTF Ever!

2009-01-19T14:18:00.000-08:00

Well I jsut babbaling. Steelers one last night that the only good thing i have to say. Work sucks to much to do not enough time. I'm working two jobs and seem to be getting into further and further debit. Someone explain that. Why is that when something goes wrong not a damn thing goes right. i mean that would make more sense than every thing else going wrong.

Well I hope someone has a better day than me.

BeeJay

BLah Blah

2009-01-08T14:32:00.000-08:00

I really don't have anything to say i just wanted to up date this and see who is reading this.

GO GATORS Oklahoma has no chance against us tonight in the BCS championship.